What Does the Bible Say About Dating? A Biblical Perspective
Introduction
In today’s culture, dating often feels like a mix of confusion, emotions, and trial-and-error. But for Christians, the question is deeper than “What feels right?” — it’s “What does God say about this?”
The Bible may not use the word "dating," but God’s Word is not silent about relationships, purity, wisdom, and godly intentions. Let's explore how Scripture guides us to approach dating in a way that honors God, respects others, and prepares us for something greater than romance — a Christ-centered relationship.
1. Dating Should Pursue Purpose, Not Just Pleasure
Biblical relationships were always rooted in intentionality. In Scripture, romantic relationships pointed toward marriage, not casual entertainment.
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.” — Proverbs 18:22
That doesn't mean every date must lead to marriage, but dating should help discern whether a person could become your spouse.
2. Guard Your Heart Above All
Modern dating often promotes emotional attachment before spiritual discernment. But Scripture tells us:
“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” — Proverbs 4:23
Guarding your heart means setting emotional, spiritual, and physical boundaries. Protect your identity in Christ and seek clarity, not confusion.
3. Do Not Be Unequally Yoked
Scripture clearly teaches not to unite romantically with someone who doesn’t share your faith in Jesus.
“Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers...” — 2 Corinthians 6:14
True oneness in a relationship comes through shared belief and spiritual unity.
4. Honor God With Your Body
God calls His people to sexual purity, even in a culture that promotes casual intimacy.
“Flee from sexual immorality... You are not your own; you were bought at a price.” — 1 Corinthians 6:18–20
God designed sex for marriage. Purity protects your body, your soul, and your relationship with God.
5. Look for Godly Character, Not Just Chemistry
Charisma fades, but godly character lasts. Look for someone who is actively pursuing Christ.
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” — Proverbs 31:30
- A heart that seeks God
- Humility and servant leadership
- Kindness and self-control
- Integrity when no one is watching
6. Invite God Into Your Dating Life
Don't treat dating like a DIY project. God wants to be involved in every step.
“In all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” — Proverbs 3:6
Pray before and during your relationship. Let Jesus be the Lord of your dating life.
7. Community and Accountability Matter
God provides wise community for our protection and guidance.
“Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” — Proverbs 15:22
Let Christian friends, mentors, or leaders speak into your relationship with wisdom and truth. Parents who model biblical wisdom often play a vital role in guiding us toward Christ-centered relationships.
Final Thoughts: Dating to Honor God
Dating is a season of discernment, not a game. When we date with biblical wisdom, we protect our hearts, glorify God, and lay the foundation for a marriage that reflects Christ's love for the Church.
Bible Verses to Reflect On:
- Proverbs 18:22
- Proverbs 4:23
- 2 Corinthians 6:14
- 1 Corinthians 6:18–20
- Proverbs 31:30
- Proverbs 3:6
- Proverbs 15:22
